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Mind and heart adjustment

Name: Ed Link
Email: Link2ed@aol.com
Date: 04 Nov 1999
Time: 05:57:31

Story

Before part of you is taken away, you never consider that it will happen. Face to face with the unexpected will test and try you. What you thought was important will be forgotten. The relationships and love you have neglected will be your desire.

In your world, a hurricane of change and pain may be tossing you about, while the one there to comfort you can read a book while you sleep. If you're selfish, a new perspective will come into view -- one that reveals just how much you are to be responsible for yourself (or, carry your own load).

Losing control of what was once simply choices and habit will leave you in a position of finding out who you can trust. Who cares about your needs and desires compared to who is there for show will be illuminated like a ball park at night.

Somehow you lose the status of "person" if others have to care for you. Becoming less in the eyes of others is heartbreaking. One must fight to regain what was once yours. A bonus to that is, while you are carving out your boundaries, they do not have to be the same ones you had before!

Becoming comfortable with changes, such as physical ability, takes time. Frustration will come, but with it will also come opportunities in areas you may not have considered before. The old adage is true: necessity is the mother of invention. The power to change in one's mind is freeing. Learning to enjoy aspects of what you once took a whole bite of will lead to satisfaction and acceptance. Nothing has changed really.

What is important has nothing to do with the body. A whole man who enjoys playing football is no different than a whole man who enjoys drawing. Both enjoy and are satisfied. If the comparison changes and a whole man is compared to a broken man, does the broken man have less ability to enjoy? No. The only difference is that the broken man has to learn how to not lose what he has left, lamenting about what he has lost.

Changes come for everyone, death, divorce, injury, sickness, fortune, fame, love, parenthood. We all have to adjust. Look inside yourself to measure. Make changes to become a different person. Anyone can do it.

Copyright © 1999 Ed Link. All rights reserved.

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