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How have you bridged the gap between being included but still feeling left out?
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Name: Debbie H
Email: hosseini58@home.com
Date: 19 Feb 2000
Time: 05:40:38
Before my son arrived, I had many ultrasounds. Each time the OB-GYN told us that it was a girl. I already had two girls and I was happy to have a third but when I delivered a son my husband and I were ecstatic. My son was absolutely beautiful. He was fair-haired with beautiful gentle big round eyes. I fell in love with him. For the next two years I was ecstatic. I had my beautiful family - two healthy girls and a beautiful strapping boy. When Kevin was two, a neighbor noticed that he wasn't communicating as well as he should. He became a Regional Center client and was enrolled in the Early Start program for children under 2 1/2 that are 50 percent delayed. As time went on his lack of speech and understanding became more apparent. At age four, he was diagnosed as autistic.
Some people are very sad when you tell them you have an autistic child. But having an autistic child is a bittersweet experience. My child will always be my beautiful boy. Through him I have met wonderful people that have dedicated their lives to making this world a better place. He has taught the family patience and tolerance. My other children are nicer people because he was born to our family. He is our gift. I feel that he must be a very strong spirit to come into this world and not be able to understand what is being said to him. Even though he tests our patience in many ways, he gives us so much joy and love.
Would I rather have a "normal" child? Yes. The only reason is that I do not want my child to experience the pain of rejection or cruelty that "normal" people will give him. Would I trade the experiences he has given us? Not in a million years. He has let us see another world that lives alongside the so-called "normal" world. The "other world" has so much heart and soul that I feel blessed to have been allowed to experience it through my innocent wide-eyed son.
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